These past two weeks we discussed:
- Gender in Family Life
- Preparing for Marriage
During the first week we talked about the importance that gender plays in families. Gender is important because family roles are important. The father, the main male in the household, is supposed to be the provider and the wife, the woman, is supposed to be the nurturer. Now this isn't always the case in most families we see now-a-days, but this is the considered the norm.
We also discussed how moving ones family around too much can alter the family unit. This one hit home for me because I moved around a lot when I was younger and I feel that it strongly impacted my family dynamic. The roles in my family began to change.
Lesson 5 was weird for me because it was about marriage preparation. Now I'm only 19 so I won't be getting married for a while, I hope, but I loved learning about this topic. We talked about what normally destroys relationships early on. Studies say that cohabitation early on in a relationship will cause a break-up a lot of the time. We talked about also that one needs to be open to dating lots of different types of people. We should do this because how will we ever know what we truly want and like in a future spouse if we limit ourselves to just dating one person. It's like only ever tasting vanilla ice cream and never even knowing what chocolate tastes like.
These past two weeks were filled with amazing lessons. Thank you to my wonderful teacher!
xoxo-Hayley
What are the potential problems that our society might face as the traditional family unit is under attack? You mentioned that family roles tended to change as you moved around, why do you think this is a normal familial trend? You mentioned cohabitation and some of its potential negative aspects, what are some of the reasons for this? I liked how you mentioned the importance in dating around. In your opinion, what is the difference in dating and courting? I feel that when we date individuals who we wouldn't typically date, our minds are opened to personality traits that we find important.
ReplyDeleteThe potential problems that we might face if our current family system is dropped is the lack of children and I think rise in divorces.
DeleteActually my family system is abnormal. Moving around so much didn't help the parental roles and actually switched them around because the children felt that they had to take care of themselves.
Studies say that cohabitation before marriage has a higher percent of divorce. Some of the reasons behind this is that couples either give up too soon once they move in together and just forget about marriage entirely or that once they get married nothing changes in the household. Everything is still for each individual instead of as a couple.
Dating is going out and actually doing something together as a couple. Courting is much bigger and means that this person is now looking at you as a potential partner(husband/wife).
I have been told before that I should broaden my dating horizons. I tend to be friends with someone before I commit to even date them though. If I can't be their friend then dating won't get me anywhere. I am working on accepting different types of people who I wouldn't normally acknowledge as "boyfriend" after learning about these past two lessons.